Grief is a natural response to the death of a loved one. Eventually you learn to cope with your changed reality and deal with the heartbreak in a healthy way. But grief can turn into something more dangerous when regret, anger and sadness prevent you from living your life. Feel like you aren’t coping with your grief? Read on to find out if it may be time to get help…
There is no such thing as normal when it comes to grief. You may read about “The 5 Stages of Grief”, which include denial, bargaining and eventually acceptance, but these stages are more of a guideline. You may experience some of these right away, years later or not at all. The grieving process is not linear and how you deal with it is personal to you.
1. Feeling numb – Feeling numb in the aftermath of a death is your body’s way of protecting you from the trauma of the loss. However, if you experience loss of enjoyment in everyday things, feel pointless or hopeless on an everyday basis this could be a sign of depression.
2. Disbelief – The immediate response to the news that someone has died tends to be disbelief. Our brains take a while to accept the gravity and implications of someone we love no longer existing. If you or someone you know is in denial that their loved one has died after the initial shock has passed, it may be the case that they aren’t dealing with their grief at all.
3. Alcohol and Drugs – We all use different crutches and distractions to dull the pain of grief, especially soon after we lose someone. That includes drinking or taking drugs for some people. This is often a normal coping mechanism, but it can develop into a dangerous addiction and it isn’t a long-term solution to dealing with grief.
Are you experiencing these symptoms? It’s a good idea to discuss these or other symptoms with your health care provider, they could indicate that you or someone you love may need more support or help to process their grief. You can find more advice and helpful tips on dealing with the loss of your loved one here.
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