Losing a parent at any point in your life can be devastating. Whether you spend time with them and speak to them regularly or your adult life has caused your interactions to be few and far between, the weeks following your parent’s death are often overwhelming, daunting and extremely lonely.
You may have regrets about the time you had with them or feel the childish vulnerability of being without your parents. No matter your relationship or how long you had with them, the death of a parent is always difficult to comprehend. Here are a few tips that will help you grieve and heal from the significant loss of a parent.
No matter the relationship you had with your parents, you can expect to feel a range of different emotions; anger, sadness, regret, vulnerability, and even the bittersweet moments of knowing they are at peace. Prepare yourself for them, establish a support system of loved ones and remember that whatever emotion you feel is valid and normal.
Just because your parents have passed on, doesn’t mean that everything needs to change. It can be extremely healing for you and your loved ones to continue with traditions you had with your parents. Whether it be as simple as a Sunday roast or an annual family holiday, it will make you feel closer to them if you continue to do what they loved.
When grieving the loss of a parent as an adult, you may feel the need to stay strong for those around you. However, grieving the loss of a parent is a very real, very emotional time. Whilst you may be feeling the need, as an adult, to hold it together for those around you, you are still a child who has just lost a parent. Don’t let your age determine how you grieve, allow yourself to really grieve for a while.
While you have lost a parent, your children have also lost a grandparent who they may have had a special bond with. Whilst it is important to keep your wits about you for their sake and maintain a semi-normal routine, it is also important to grieve with them. Most people believe that children want a parent who likes a stiff upper lip in times of tragedy, however, it is important to express your feelings of loss to your children. This is a typical ‘lead by example’ exercise, as your children will learn to express their emotions in a healthy way rather than suppress them.
When the time feels right and you are ready to create a tribute for your loved one, gather your closest friends and family and do something to honour your late parent- you can also do it on your own. This can mean donating a bench to their favourite park, planting a tree or be as simple as framing a picture. This will serve as a special reminder of your loved one and remind you that they are always watching over you.
Loving Ashes great unique glass orbs and heart to memorialize your loved ones. Using a small sample of their ashes, you can create a stunning decorative piece for your home to remember your loved one. For a customized tribute to your loved one, call Loving Ashes today and let us know how we can help honour your loved one.