Losing someone close to you comes with a number of intense emotions the human body is not used to experiencing. These emotions have the power to disrupt our physical, mental and emotional wellbeing and have a negative influence on our daily lives.
A common feeling experienced when grieving is regret. This is dangerous for our wellbeing, as regret has the power to influence how we view our loss and move forward with our own lives. We at Loving Ashes realise this, and so we are sharing some tips for coping with regret that will help you accept your loss and redirect your energy to remembering your loved one.
Don’t spend your days focusing on the regrets you have surrounding your loved one’s death. Instead, let the 5 tips in the blog post help you cope with regretful feelings you may experience.
This may seem like a silly idea if you are not one to express your feelings in writing, however, it has proven to be an effective coping method when it comes to grieving, regretful individuals. Writing a letter and addressing it to your loved one feels more like personal interaction, as opposed to simply thinking about what you would say. Explaining to your loved one how you feel and why is an effective way to address your regrets and give the feeling that you are apologizing/accepting responsibility for your regrets.
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Rather than focusing all your energy on what you regret after losing your loved one, focus on all the good that was shared. When you catch yourself thinking about the moments and actions that you regret, try drawing on a fond memory you shared with your loved one. Special and happy times are far more important than any regret and should be cherished and celebrated rather than repressed below regret.
While you may never quite get over your regrets, you may be able to learn from them and avoid having similar regrets in the future. If your regret was not spending enough time with your loved one, learn from that regret by not making a similar mistake with another loved one. However bad an experience may be, there is always something that can be learnt from it.
Every single person on planet earth has experienced regret, it is completely normal. Not everything goes our way in life, and because of that, we have regrets. However, we cannot let these perfectly humane feelings define us or consume our mind. No matter how well you live your life, you will have regrets; it’s the price we pay for living. No man is immune to regret, all we can do is live our lives as consciously as we can and understand that the actions that resulted in regret is simply what we thought was right for us at the time.
It is important when navigating feelings of regret, to know exactly what it is that you are regretting. Is it something you didn’t let your loved one know? Was it your last interaction with them? Do you regret not spending enough time with them? In order to accept and let go, you need to write down your regrets and feelings on paper. Don’t think too much about what you are writing, rather focus on simply writing what it is that you regret and why. Once you are able to read over what you have written, you may have a clearer understanding of your feelings. You can then put the paper somewhere safe for reference, burn it or rip it up.
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